When you were younger were you taught that if you cut your finger you should wash the cut and get a band aide? Do you remember hearing, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? Why did our parents think that it was important for us, as children, to address physical damage, and at the same time, ignore emotional scarring?

Is it because psychology is not seen as a “real” healing science whereas allopathic medicine is seen as “real” and it is therefore worthy of respect.

Our presenter makes the case that emotional trauma may be just as, or even more, damaging than physical trauma. As you watch, think about yourself. How do you handle rejection, depression or loneliness?

Why you should listen:

According to Guy Winch, many people fail to adequately deal with emotional pain: things like guilt, loss and loneliness. He argues that it make tremendous sense to take care of our emotions and our minds with the same intensity that we take care of our bodies.

Who is he:

Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist who works with individuals, couples and families. A reviewer of his book Emotional First Aid, wrote that his book had many, “astute observations on so many common causes of emotional distress and their cures, and especially for the chapter on loneliness.”

Discussion questions:

  1. What are some of the psychological injuries that people receive? What are the consequences?
  2. He tells the story of his first separation from his twin brother. Has something like that ever happened to you? What emotions did you experience?
  3. How does loneliness affect someone?
  4. What is the “default” system that adults experience in the face of frustration and setbacks?
  5. He gave an example of a rejected woman and her negative self-talk. Have you ever experienced this yourself? How can you deal with it in a positive manner?
  6. What was his suggestion for battling negative thoughts?

Why we all need to practice emotional first aid with Guy Winch


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